Why Women Fail

Why do so many American women who "try" for a natural birth fail...only to be convinced that for them it is impossible? In my experience as a doula, women don't apply constructive thought to birth preparation from the start...that there isn't enough "try" in their tepid desires for a natural birth. Though most women I come across seem interested in the subject of natural birth and even express a desire to have a natural childbirth, they often avoid reading the books I recommend or take the time to seek out the right labor support. Usually they just go far enough to say, “I think I’ll try to go natural," not realizing that it takes a full commitment and fervent desire to have a good natural birth.

This laissez faire approach to natural birth preparation might have worked long ago when it was a foregone conclusion that babies come into the world in only one way; when women were surrounded by women with extensive knowledge of natural birth capable of aiding them in the process, but today when almost everything women face in the hospital environment hinders the progression of natural birth, it is naive to think that they will be successful without a fervent commitment to natural birth.

Besides the lazy faire attitude of many women toward natural birth, women today face a challenge to their success that women in the past did not. The soft living of our modern age has become a pitfall that often leaves us unprepared to face the "labor" of birth because of the extraordinary exertions it requires. We have become too conditioned by the easy life, constantly having our basic needs meet with little effort.

Convenience and ease is standard in our world of prepared foods and eating out, high-tech appliances, and instant gratification. We have an easy pain free life and so naturally we expect and want a pain free labor (a paradox in itself, perhaps labor should get a new name). To me it is sad that we’ve been taken in by the pursuit of the easy way and the soft life, since “the most worthwhile things aren’t easy." We are missing out on some of the most worthwhile experience in life when we avoid the difficult pursuits. This is definitely true with child birth.

Women who go into labor with a casual commitment to a natural childbirth rarely make it past six centimeters dilation before they decide they can’t do it. Most women I talk to these days simply tell me they tried and it was too hard. They've come to believe that women who are able to labor naturally simply must have better genetics and easier labors. They draw no connections between methods they used and the types of labor interventions they allowed and the fact that most natural birth mothers fervently reject such interventions as the only way to achieve their goal of "natural birth."

I do not want to marginalize legitimate birth complications which are real challenges for some women, but the statistics clearly show that these complications happen very rarely when labor is left alone and medical interventions are not used. Only 5% of normal healthy women who are supported by doulas or midwives and reject common medical interventions end up with cesarean births, startling when compared to the average rate of 30%.

The sad part about these common experiences is that most of them are avoidable with some preparation and good labor support. Women who think they are unable to have a successful natural childbirth would be wise to take an independent look at their labors and ask themselves what medical interventions were used prior to the problem that arose, and could the problem be caused by those unnecessary medical procedures. It is my experience that very often the emergency measure is needed because of the unnecessary medical procedure that preceded it.

A midwife (who provides continuous labor support) or a doula can do a lot to help a woman who has a history of large babies, lots of back labor, or long and difficult labors. Baby size is one of the most common "medical reasons" for routine inductions which are most often the cause of medically induced emergencies during labor and birth. As a doula I have seen women push for hours only to deliver a 6 pound baby, and another will push twice and a nearly 10 pound baby charges onto the scene. I have watched this phenomenon many times and it is my opinion that the traction that large babies have in the birth canal aids them in the birthing process as long as their mothers are using movement and gravity to help them along. Still baby size is one of the most common "medical reasons" for routine inductions which are most often the cause of medically induced emergencies during labor and birth.

The thing that most often contributes to long and difficult labors is the improper presentation of the infant, an obstacle often overcome by simple positions changes and movement during labor. Medical interventions become the common obstacles to the correction of the baby’s placement because they cause a woman to be held captive to her hospital bed stealing her mobility and therefore snatching from her the most effective means of bringing her baby into the world by the power of her own body.

Women who labor lying down and immobile are not only going to experience more pain, they will have longer labors and more difficulties at the pushing stage. This alone is the most common reason women fail in their pursuit of a natural birth, and one that is easily overcome by the presence of constant capable labor support.

Whatever the reason for the failure the tragedy is that many of these mothers who walked into the hospital hoping for a natural birth walk out disappointed in themselves, or worse, horrified that they ended up on the c-section table. It has been my experience that the vast majority of women are able to labor naturally and bring their babies into the world by their own power so long as they lean upon the support of women who have confidence in and knowledge of natural birth.